Lilly said to me, “I don’t know why you are disappointed, Mama. You knew you would never see those people again.”
What prompted this?
We met a nice American couple at church. They were grads of the same college that my husband attended. The wife had even lived on the very same road that he had lived on while he was at college.
They are new to the area, like us. We made plans to get together. We were so excited to see home folk. They wrote a week later, cancelled, and as Lilly said, we may never see them again.
That is okay with me, but not okay with my MK. She adds this to her long list of people who come and go (mostly go) in her life. Plans that are upset and changed on a regular basis.
Connecting with an MK/TCK is a challenge. Visitors come for a very short time and then disappear.
Visitors sometimes don’t take the time to get to know our TCKs. So our kids get used to being ignored – perhaps they prefer it that way. Why create a relationship with someone who is going to be gone the next week?
But for those of us who have MK/TCKs, we want them to feel important and worthwhile.
I have targeted one boy in our church who hangs around the fringes. It’s very hard to get his attention, get him to talk, and even harder to get him to actually connect with me. But I’m not giving up. I want this boy to know that I am here to stay. I like him. I’m interested in him and his life. I want to be his friend.
What do I say to Lilly in response to her “Don’t depend on people!” remark?
There is a friend that sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24), and He has promised to NEVER desert me, nor will He ever forsake me (Hebrews 13:5). That is a solid foundation on which to rest and enjoy the fellowship of my closest Friend. I can depend on my Savior.